a strange paradox of the upward path that runs through Real Life: the
more conscious we become of what limits us, the more limitless becomes
our reality! So, take as long as you need to understand the following
special lesson; it sheds much needed light on a certain dark state that
stands between us, and the higher freedom for which we long. The sole purpose of discouraged feelings is to keep your thoughts on what you can’t do.
And with your attention fixed in this fashion – on what seems
impossible – there’s no room for discovering what is possible – for what you can do.
In other words, the only thing discouraged states do is to keep you busy doing nothing except feeling sorry for yourself
is the perfect guarantee that your situation will remain hopelessly the
same. Enough is enough! You don’t have to put up with one more
discouraging moment, let alone a life limited by its darkness. There’s
another choice you can make besides falling into those familiar
feelings of being a “failure.” The next few insights will empower you
to start thinking about old discouragements in a new way.
we suffer over what we aren’t able to do, create, or work through,
where is our attention in these moments? It’s riveted on our own
thought-produced reality that’s telling us we’re stuck! Maybe you can
recognize some of these heavy-hearted inner voices that come with being
victimized by such dark thoughts. In one way or another, they say . . .
“I’ll never get out of this mess.”
“It’s too late!”
“I’m too set in my ways to change.”
“This is hopeless.”
on the surface of things, these all-too-familiar whispers of defeat --
that speak to us with our own voice -- seem genuinely concerned about
our unwanted condition. But a deeper look tells a much different story.
These troubled thoughts are part of an unseen “conspiracy of
limitation” taking place in our own consciousness! Follow the next four
ideas to their stunning conclusion. They prove that self-illumination
and self-liberation are one and the same power.
1. The more these gloomy voices talk to us, the more discouraged we feel.
2. The more discouraged we feel, the more certain we are there’s no other choice but to feel that way.
3. The more convinced we are that we have no choice, the less choice we have
4. The act of identifying with this dark inner dialogue actually produces the dead-end we fear!
so it goes: now we’re convinced of our own captivity! There’s no way
past the limitations we perceive as being real. The key idea here lies
in the word “perceive” because it rhymes with deceive. That’s just what
this perception is: a secret deception. Here’s the liberating proof.There are no dead-ends in real life
course you must prove this bright fact to yourself, and here’s a good
place to start: in any given moment there’s always something higher to
do with your life than sit there and suffer over what you think you
can’t have, do, or be. Why wallow this way when a small amount of
interior work will forever change how you see reality? For instance, see that the “size” of your discouragement is directly proportionate to how strongly you insist life conform to your demands
. Verifying this self-imposed limitation empowers you, immediately, to let it go and start over.
another example: maybe you’ve felt discouraged because you wanted to
learn something new – a higher skill or a difficult lesson – but felt
sure that certain limitations of yours placed this possibility beyond
your abilities. Now you can do something much higher than just resign
yourself to feeling discouraged.
Instead of falling into those familiar feelings of futility over yourself, deliberately drop those discourage-filled thoughts
telling you the limit of your present view is the limit of your
possibilities. Who you have been matters only to those dark states that
want you to remain that way so that they can continue to rule the day.
Refusing to dwell in the world of discouraged thoughts and feelings is
the same as opening the door to a new world without limits. Just start
working with who you are now!
In other words, do what’s in your power and refuse to be discouraged about anything else
Keep repeating this new action one step at a time until you’ve walked
away from the whole false idea that there’s no further you can go!
Here are three special key lessons to help you strengthen and then actualize your wish to live in a world without limits:Any
conversation you permit yourself to have with discouraging thoughts
guarantees you’ll wind up with a good reason for feeling discouraged. When
you know that what you’re looking for is what you already are -- and
not what you may become -- you stand on the threshold of the limitless
universe itself is actually set up for you to succeed with realizing
the limitless life, which means you are made for whatever happens to
Excerpted from The Essential Laws of Fearless Living